Christmas traditions

Most every family that celebrates Christmas has its own Christmas traditions. This year Emma has been letting one of ours out of the bag. For a long time now, she has been introducing herself to people. Once she was the size that she looked like she would be in kindergarten, it usually boiled down to:

“My name is Emma. I’m {age}. I’m homeschooled. Mommy’s my teacher.”

It took a while before it occurred to me that she was answering the questions most adults who didn’t know her, asked her if they conversed with her. For the last month or so she has been adding the following to her introduction:

“My Daddy is my Santa.”

I would say the majority of adults she’s said that to don’t know how to respond. I’ve had a few looks which suggested that I had commited a severe injustice. Others, though, have been a little more understanding. One lady after having a bit of time to absorb it did say, “I suppose, that’s the best sort of Santa to have.” This week, while out grocery shopping she added, to one lady:

“Maybe my Daddy will bring you presents, too.”

Over the years, I’ve run into adults who remember Christmas primarily from when they were a child. And, it seems to an extent, that Christmas as an adult brought them little joy or happiness. I’m not that way. I said to Andrea tonight, “This is the best Christmas ever.” She promptly replied, “You say that every year.” And she’s right. I do say that every year and I’m not making it up. On Christmas morning, I’ll be in a room full of people whose whose main goal there is to make every other person in the room happy. In my experience, that doesn’t happen very often.

While sitting here thinking of what to talk about next, I realized that over the years we have parted from what I perceive the traditional Christmas to be quite alot. For example, starting at age 2, I would take the children out and let them pick out gifts for the rest of the family. One year that turned into Andrea opening a wrapped box that contained a can of peas. I fear, that for many children in our society, they have become the object of Christmas. Christmas is a product that gets delivered to them and their role in it all is limited to Christmas morning. If that was their childhood Christmas, it is no wonder that being the person who creates the product sees no joy in it.

For my children, Christmas has been a process. I can guarantee you that all of the older children have spent far more time in the last year thinking about what they were going to give everyone else than they did thinking about what they might get.

But, I really haven’t told you the story behind what Emma has been telling people recently. Before her third Christmas, I asked the older three if they wanted us to teach her about Santa. They unanimously said no. And we haven’t. At the time I also proposed an alternative way of having stockings filled for Christmas morning. So, we largely left it to Emma to draw her own conclusions. The irony that came along 2 years ago was that Emma asked me to get a Santa suit and be Santa.

When it got close to Christmas, Andrea and I picked up a Santa suit. On Christmas Eve, I went upstairs and got suited up, went into the attic. I then closed the door loudly and stomped my way down stairs. I had a gift for each person to open in my sack, plus I got Emma to help me put a gift in each stocking. Then I went back upstairs and took off the suit. Throughout the whole thing Emma called me Santa and corrected someone who mistakenly called me Dad. But the glint in her eye and the smile on her face betrayed that she knew she was taking part in pretense. When I came back down stairs as me, she excitedly told me the whole story of Santa being there.

This year, she has already asked me to do it again. And, of course, I will.

We hope you have a truly Merry Christmas (Ho Ho Ho).

I’m a nerd

Jax, eat your heart out ;)

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A long time coming

We have always wanted to have a picture of our house from across the river. Our previous digital camera only had digital zoom and you rarely got a clear shot if you used the zoom. On Saturday, I was over in that area on an errand. I didn’t have the camera with me, but it reminded me that we were probably running out of chances to get the picture. So, on Sunday, I took the camera while I was dropping Sarah off to work. After dropping her off, I went across the bridge and up river until I was at one of the good spots to see our house.Given how steady my hands are, I wasn’t sure how the picture would turn out at a full 10x optical zoom. I was pleasantly surprised:


Our neighbourhood

The new camera

If you hadn’t already heard from Andrea, I have the new camera this week. My office is also about a minute’s walk from the Saint John River. And, I was rewarded this week with a couple days of picturesque scenery.

Looking across the Saint John River.

A second shot from further back, later in the day, using the zoom. The car was probably moving at about 30 mph.

Yesterday morning it was cold enough that frost formed on almost everything, including the trees.

Another shot taken yesterday of the the other side of the river while looking over the library roof.

I think I like it :)

geek meme

I couldn’t resist this one from Jax:


Which Programming Language are You?

Addison, your turn ;)

Interesting quote

Andrea sent me this tonight and I liked it so much I couldn’t resist posting it.

“However strange it may well seem, to do one’s duty will make any
one conceited who only does it sometimes. Those who do it always
would as soon think of being conceited of eating their dinner as
of doing their duty.

What honest boy would pride himself on not picking pockets? A
thief who was trying to reform would. To be conceited of doing
one’s duty is then a sign of how little one does it, and how
little one sees that a contemptible thing it is not to do it.”/

~ G. MacDonald, The Wise Woman

hiatus

We are bearing down on the nth arbitrary deadline we set for having the house ready to go on the market. This will be the 3rd week since the time change. What I have been doing for the last 2 weeks is catching up on my sleep while I’m here. It’s been working in that I’ve been getting an earlier start on the weekend mornings. I’ve also switched over to driving here on Monday mornings instead of Sunday nights. My internet week is very compressed. In all honesty, even though I have things I’d like to write about, most of the time I’m too tired or busy to write. Right now my expectation is that once the house is on the market I will be resuming my form writing regime.

Unschooling Voices #5

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Question of the month for Unschooling Voices #6

What interesting activites, projects or experiments have your kids done this past year? We’ve gotten some really cool ideas from other unschoolers so tell us what you’ve done in 2006!

Unschooling Voices (last minute) reminder

The deadline is tomorrow. Details here.

Howard Gardner

I first encountered the name Howard Gardner using a university library search system looking for reference material for this paper. Within the online system there were a number of abstracts on his book “The Unschooled Mind”. And, of course, given the topic I wanted to write about, the title caught my attention. The abstracts consistently gave a relatively low opinion of the theories presented in the book. However, one of the abstracts briefly described the background/problem which lead to the theories. The theories had no relevance to the paper (I made no mention of them in the paper) but the problem was relevant. I could not find the book in the university library so I bought a copy online.

I have never actually read all of the book. I’d guess that I’ve read about half of it. The problem I believe that Gardner was trying to solve was the following:

…that in nearly every student there is a five year old ‘unschooled’ mind struggling to get out and express itself.

What I believe he was saying was that however long a person spends in school, there remains within them the learner who learned without curriculum and external control. For example, the learner who learned how to walk; the one that learns to ride a bike, roller blade, skateboard, etc. Gardner used studies to back his argument. One of those studies compared the working (practical) knowledge of basic physics of recent MIT engineering degree graduates with school students. Both groups were asked the questions in a way that was not consistent with test or exam questions. An example of the type of knowledge they were evaluating is if I throw a ball, after it leaves my hand, in addition to friction with the air, what other forces are acting on its motion. The MIT graduates only did marginally better than elementary students. The majority of both groups did not know the correct answer (gravity).

The studies that he quoted would suggest that for most people all the years in school and all the ‘learning’ in school have little impact on their perception of how the world works. In other words, most high school graduates have many of the same misconceptions about how the world works the most 5 year olds do despite the fact that the high school graduates’ ‘education’ corrected many of those misconceptions.

At this point you may be wondering where this train of thought came from. TBH, it’s partly (but only partly) Carlotta‘s fault. I left her the following comment last night on this post:

I have his book ‘The Unschooled Mind’. Whether or not you or I agree with his theories on intelligence(s), the book is a worthwhile read in that it directs you to thinking about what the current education system lacks and seemingly prevents children from learning.

What lead me to thinking about writing this post started with the conversation going on in the comments here (also last night). Last night when I was going to sleep, I was thinking of the difference between process and product. An example that I thought of was those craft times where a group of kids ‘make’ a craft. The teacher/leader prepares for the craft making session by cutting all the pieces, making all the shapes, writing step by step instructions to aid in keeping everyone together, etc. In many cases, the only thing left for the child to do is apply glue a few times. What I realized in thinking about that example was that it was an instance of the product being more important than the process. That the end result be more or less the desired product is more important than the child make something on their own.

And then it hit me. That is the problem Gardner is trying to solve. What school delivers to a child is a product. School is not about the process of learning. It is about absorbing a predetermined range of knowledge which is planned down to the minutest detail. It’s no wonder education is considered a commodity. But the contrasting thing is that until a child enters school, the child’s learning is primarily about process. A child doesn’t learn to walk because it’s coming up later on a test or they need a license to walk or it’s going to help them get a job when they are an adult. They learn to walk because they want to walk. They learn to talk because they want to talk. And Gardner’s unschooled mind is one that learns because it wants to.

Even though I had no intention of offering comment on Gardner’s theories themselves, I’ve changed my mind. You can come up with whatever theories you want about the way our intelligence works. In the long run, if they are attended to at all they will be used in hopes of fine tuning the step by step instructions of mass producing a product. Theories about intelligence(s) can tell you nothing about what an individual child will want to learn.