Reading, writing, spelling – all intertwined

In carefully observing our youngest child, Emma (5), Ron and I have noticed how seemingly simple things and processes we have taken for granted are intertwined and often inter-related to the point of being dependant on one another. In other words, sometimes Emma figures out one thing that leads to an avalance in other areas.

I had previously noted that Emma can now read. She’s not a fluent independant reader, but it’s getting there. She has figured out, without formal instruction, that those squiggly lines on the paper represent a word that we SAY. When we want to say something with words on paper we write down the SOUNDS we would hear. Every letter or group of letters have a special sound – sometimes more than one. She has also noted that some words don’t follow the rules and we must learn to recognize them as a whole.

She find this incredibly interesting. So do I, especially considering this is exactly how I remember learning how to read.

She lives in an environment where it is okay to question practically anything. She knows we are here to either give her an answer or help her find an answer. To that end, sometimes we have conversation like this:

Emma – “What’s that word?”

Me – says nothing, pauses and waits

Emma – “Oh, that says ‘new’!”

She thinks about it for a moment. “I read a new word! Get it, ‘new’? HA!”

The past few days she has been drawing a lot, making leaps in that area as well, filling pictures with incredible detail. Now that she has grasped the concept of words as part of expressing her thoughts, she continually asks how to spell the word she wants to use. Almost all of the time, she has figured out the beginning sound and written down the first letter. When she is in a hurry, she figures out what she can, and writes down the sounds she hears, fully aware she is skipping some letters, but confident we will know what she means.

Today’s series of pictures were seascapes with whales, fish, the waterline and the sun shining overhead. The words she put on herself were: Mon, Noo, Doe and WL. Translated, they are Marlin, Nemo, Dory and whale. On another picture, she asked me how to spell Finding Nemo and copied it down at the top of the page. Then she decided it needed the phrase “DVD” in the front, which she knew.

Yesterday’s picture was more more involved and imaginative. She had drawn a complicated map, with pathways, X’s and drawings of furniture. The letter M and P were at the top and she asked what letter went in the middle. I was to follow it to find her in the living room, but I kept putting it off. Eventually, she started to add more words and asked me how to spell each one as I worked. The words were please, computer, then, not, the.

When I finally read her map, it said:

“PAM (map) to Mome Fo (from) Emma then go to emma please no (a picture of me on the computer in a circle with a line through it) not on the computer I <3 (a picture of a heart) you”

So I stopped working. The message was loud and clear. She was very proud the words she wrote were understandable by all. We then drew more pictures, wrote more words, and read more stories.

Favour

This week would be the week for another unschooling carnival. For this carnival I’m asking you to consider writing a post (and leaving a comment on this one) about one of two subjects:

  1. Unschooling feels, sounds or appears like a good philosophy to follow, but ________ prevent me (or make me hesitant to) follow through with it.
  2. Unschooling my child(ren) has enabled me to see ________

If you can spare the time to write a post on one of those 2 subjects, it would be great. Both subjects would allow us to share the 2 sides of the coin and perhaps we can help one another see our way through one difficulty or another.

Elevated Comment Question

Joanne has asked the following question in her comment on the Yet another Adventure post:

Will there be any kind of moderation on your end in terms of parenting philosophy that is endorsed? I don’t expect a complete lack of punishment or spanking. Just protection from the culture of abuse being embrace by more and more Christians.

I’ve had a few hours to consider this question. I think mostly that I am saddened by the fact that moderation may be necessary for something other than a spam blog or link farm blog. It isn’t as though Andrea and I had not discussed this more than once in the months leading up to getting the domain and space to run it. In fact, we had talked about the homeschool journal site before we started this one. And we have always understood and agreed that removing an offensive blog might be necessary.

But, offering homeschoolers a place to blog where they didn’t have to advertise or promote something was worth that risk. The story of Sean Paddock (see below) may mean that an ‘if’ has turned into a ‘when’.

Andrea and I set up homeschooljournal.net to allow homeschooling families to talk about homeschooling. I would personally like our society to have the opportunity to see that we are not all nut cases.

What was done to Sean Paddock had nothing to do with homeschooling. Not all children who endure such treatment, or other forms of abuse, die and if the statistics are reliable, the vast majority of those children are not homeschooled. I would expect a parent might talk about parenting philosophy because it does play a part in home education. I talk about parenting philosophy in this blog. What I would not expect is a set of instructions for crime and punishment under the guise of ‘discipline’. One of the reasons I was satisfied with the name homeschooljournal is that the name creates a line in the sand.

Doing this is a new adventure for both of us. Perhaps, I’m really trying to address 2 questions: Do I want to ‘moderate’ a blog? No. Would I? Yep.

Chatting & Creativity

Before I get into the subject of tonight’s post, I must confess I feel the urge to talk a bit about the past. Shortly after we started this site, I briefly recounted our history of homeschooling. The thing I wanted to remind you of is that we were not always unschoolers. All 3 of the older children started out with an out of the box curriculum. So, many of the things I talk about are lessons that have been learned the hard way. Probably the main reason I am able to write with the surety that I do is that I’ve already tried the alternative. But, the main reason I take the time to write is to share our experience, so that anyone reading will not be as alone in this as we were for many years. And that, in the last few years, I’ve come to realize that the experts really know very little about what they are talking about in many instances.

Since I’ve been away during the week, Andrea and I have been using Google Chat to talk at night to allow for longer (and more convenient) conversations and save on long distance charges. In the first week, occasionally, Andrea would send a message for Emma. But the next week, Emma wanted to sit on Andrea’s knee and watch. The first thing you know, I’m getting messages typed by Emma. Some of them are something like ‘asfadflkfdj;sdlfndmcn,smcniowafhewoude’, others resemble things she would say. One of those is ‘emmatodade’ (Emma to Daddy) followed by ‘iloveyou’. And once, she sent me a ‘fune’ (funny) in reply to something I sent her. Since then, she has taken to counting with me, ’12345678910′ and then I say ’11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20′. Then she giggles hysterically.

This week she did, ’123456789100′. When I got home last night she wanted to know if I thought it was funny that she ended with one hundred. That’s the number we count to when I’m tucking her in for the night (she always has to say 100). She has also caught onto a number of the ascii ‘smiley’s that the chat turns into a graphic. Of these, her favourite is <3 which rotates counter-clockwise and into a heart. What Andrea did this week was set her up with her own profile on a second computer so she can chat with me on her own. She loves it. Mom is close by if she needs help, but otherwise, she can do it independently.

I realize that circumstances have created a situation which has heightened the interest in learning something. I’m sure the experts would argue that the chatting doesn’t support unschooling because of the extenuating circumstances. But, that couldn’t be further than the truth. This is a perfect illustration of both how and why unschooling does work. The how is really simple. If children are interested in something, they will invest the time and energy into learning it. The whole point of unschooling is that if children are interested they can and will learn. If you eliminate all the situations in a child’s life which heighten his or her interest in learning what you are likely to be left with is, …well, something pretty much like a classroom.

The second half of the title relates to Emma’s growing investment in creativity. To step back in history again, we had abandoned alot of the structured element of the older children’s education by the time Emma was born. The transformation I went through involved me realizing that alot of the things that I had formerly assumed about children were not necessarily true. Having been graced with her, I had (and have) an opportunity to discover and learn about children. And so, I’ve done a great deal of observing and making mental notes. One of the things I’ve watched along the way is the development of her ability to exercise her creativity.

One of the things I’ve done with Emma has been respond to her motor skills being unable to keep up with her creativity differently than I did with the older children. When they got upset that they couldn’t do something because of a lack of coordination or fine motor skills, we used to try to comfort them by telling them it was ok. With Emma, what I’ve done is hug/hold her and ask her if she’d like me to help her. Sometimes she accepts and sometimes she refuses. The thing is, whether you are 2, 5, 10 or 50, when you can’t do something you really want to do, it’s not ok, it’s frustrating. I don’t want to give the impression that I think she is more creative than the older kids. But, that I think responding in a different way has allowed me to be more involved in her creativity and she is more willing to allow me to help her by hurdles.

Having said that, this week she made a car out of a cardboard box. Essentially, she drew alot of the details found in a car on appropriate locations on the box including a rearview mirror. In the rearview mirror you can see the sun, an ice cream stand and a car parked in front of the stand (because the driver is buying ice cream). It has an ignition and keys, a gas tank with fill cap, gauges and controls, etc. It’s very elaborate. She put alot of time into it. At the same time, you can tell it’s the artwork of a child.

When I was teaching at the college, this was the time of year where I taught the first year students their first language specific programming course. Likely, in the last few weeks, I would have discussed the course workload (very heavy compared to the other courses they had) and that the reality they were up against was that programming was like riding a bike. You can watch all the videos about riding bikes that you want and you can talk about bikes all you want, but you will never learn to ride a bike that way. The way to learn to ride a bike is to get on one and ride it. And that’s what creativity is like. It’s learned and developed through exercising it.

That’s one of the reasons I’m not really a fan of alot of early educational materials. Many of the materials out there in common use are intended to develop ‘skills’ but provide very little exercise outside of that. An example of that is a colouring book. The only real creativity involved in colouring a predrawn picture is choosing the colours. (We don’t prevent her from having such things. We just don’t limit her to those.) I guess what I want to say is that, wanting children to be able to produce a picture that looks as though it could have been done by an adult is a poor excuse for depriving them of the opportunity to develop the ability to create a picture they can call their own. I would rather be able to sincerely faun over 10,000 real drawings that undeniably show the development of real talent, imagination and expression than the best of the colouring competitions.

Emma

Hi,

How are you? a I love you, dade.

(an entry dictated by Emma- ‘a’ = and)

nay-but

Over the last few weeks I’ve noticed that Emma’s nightly routine is changing a little. Now she reads us a story or 2 before we read to her. She likes to read books that don’t have a lot of text in them and saves the longer stories for us to read to her. On Friday night, I was reading her a story with a cat called Nebut (I pronouce it nay-boo). About the third time I encounter the name in the story, Emma interrupts me to say, “You’re not saying it right Daddy. It’s nay-but.” Of course, I apologise and adjust the remainder of the story accordingly.

So much for the study that says that kids don’t follow along with the words with you. If it’s a picture book, I don’t doubt that they may focus on the pictures the first few times through. Now the thing is that I don’t recall Nebut in any other story of hers. And this story has several lines of text per page. Obviously, they eventually follow along with the words and are able to pick them out of several lines of text. And that’s not just words that they encounter all the time but ones that they don’t encounter in other books.

Even though we talk about unschooling regularing in this blog, it is worth noting that she’s had no formal instruction on either phonics or whole language structures. And not only has she developed recognition of words but a concrete sense of how they ought to sound to the extent that she’s confident enough to correct an adult. What she knows, she has learned from us reading to her, looking at books herself and from questions she has asked us :)

I think they miss me

While starting to write this I’m listened to Over the Rainbow performed by Israel Kamakawiwo`ole which has been included in the soundtrack of a number of movies including playing during the credits of Finding Forrester. Tonight, I was just getting ready to settle in to a late night of writing when my oldest 2 showed up in the kitchen while I was getting a drink. About an hour later I got to the computer.

I had 2 conversations at once. Each waiting patiently for a break in the one that I was having with their sibling to get the conversation back to what they had on their mind. I put this in the category of unschooling adventures because even though I’ve been a parent a very long time I’m still encountering things I’ve never encountered before. I think parenting will always be that way. Although someday it’ll be grandparenting.

What made this an adventure has very little to do with what the conversations were about. It has alot to do with dear and close friends who haven’t seen each other in a while. One of the things that I expect is nearly universal about homeschooling parents is that they want to see their kids grow up. I don’t mean in the biological sense. I mean in the mature, responsible, thoughtful, etc. sense. And if they are going to do that, we have to let them. So, the relationship between parent and child has to morph through the years. It is the parent who has to allow this to happen. And, the relationship has to move from one of elder-child to one of friendship. Whether or not there may be other ways, I can certainly see no better way.

I have to say there are times when it’s tough to do. But, I can also tell you it’s worth doing. If you’ve been following along in Andrea’s blog, it’s been a difficult week. There are lots of temporary things that are there begging for attention. Likely though, in 6 months to a year, none of those things will be important. Our relationship with each other and our children will be.

Here are a few lines that I’ve excerpted from Over the Rainbow

And the dreams that you dare to,
‘oh, why? oh, why can’t I?’

Well, I see trees of green and red roses too
I’ll watch them bloom for me and you.

See friends shaking hands saying, ‘how do you do?’
They’re really saying, ‘I, I love you’

I hear babies cry and I watch them grow
they’ll learn much more than we’ll know

Some day I’ll wish upon a star
wake up where the clouds are far
…behind
where trouble melts like lemon drops
high above the chimney tops
that’s where you’ll find me

Jung Typology Profile

Tim at Making It Up is responsible for this post :)

We discussed the Jung Profile in my first Adult Ed course. I always find these things interesting whether or not I agree with them. Of course, I’d love to dig into the guts of the thing and see how it scores. Since I can’t do that, I’ll just tell you that I profiled as a Counselor Idealist (iNFj). What do you think? Does it fit me or not?

You can try for your own profile here.

Tour du Woodlands

On my trip over today, I took some pictures while driving. This is only the second time I’ve driven this highway. The first time was last Sunday. On that trip, the hardwoods in the first 2 photos were covered in frost. It was very picturesue. But, I didn’t have the camera with me. From the first picture to the last was about 20-30 miles apart. Most of the route I traveled is shown on this map.

The first 2 photos were taken east of Napadogan and the third west of it. Napadogan is the only habitation between Williamsburg and Juniper. Napadogan consists of a wood processing mill and a handful of houses.
Westward Bound

The majority of New Brunswick’s landscape looks much like this although not all of it can be seen from a highway as is the case with these. About 15 years ago I ran into the statistic that over 2/3 of NB is considered uninhabited. That figure was based on a 1 mile (I think) radius around all permanent residences accounted for less that 1/3 of the area of the province. Where you see the blank areas of the map are uninhabited areas.

Westward Bound

If you check the bottom of each image, you should notice the pavement progressively disappearing under ice as I traveled west. For most of 10-15 miles, there was little bare pavement. Most people who drive here in the winter get used to driving on ice. The estimated time by mapquest is about 3 1/2 hours. Without stopping for refreshments, streches, etc., it only takes about 3 hrs on dry pavement. Today, with 2 stops it did take about the 3 1/2 hours.

Westward Bound

Carnival of Unschooling #3

A very small carnival this month, but some excellent reading therein.

First up, we have David, making the case for unschooling, which he does quite well, I might add. Loads of good stuff in the many comments as well.

This, and the events going on in our own lives, lead me to thinking about how wonderfully adaptive unschooling is. Just looking at a typical day from Joanne at A Day in our Lives you can see how unschooling doesn’t necessarily mean a day full of disorganized chaos. Even for a family of younger children, like at Patch of Puddles, you can see how their typical day (in pictures even) is at once similar but distinctly different, geared just for them.

Topic can be grabbed on the fly, as they occur, delved into with the child’s interests, with life. See specifically how Homeschooling Mami explores Black history month with her child, and how it is just a part of their lives, appreciating all their friends year round.

I admit, though, there is often a steep learning curve for the parents, as we navigate the uncharted waters. Over at Tricotomania, she talks about our need to plan for things and how sometimes we need to just let go.

The hard parts that go along with that are noted by Janine, on a day where she’s had to wear too many hats.

This gives me pause for reflection, and an urge to dig out an older post of mine from two whole years ago, Homeschooling and the ADD Mom, where I bemoan my sorry state and declare we just can’t unschool. But just look at how far we can come, what our children can do, if only we adapt our thinking and get out of their way.

Note: The Carnival of Unschooling has move to Unschooling Voices.